The Ripple Affect

Most of us do our best to stop people from crying! And it’s really a disservice to everyone. Recently, I witnessed two people crying within two days. ** The first person was someone I have known for a long time and has hired me in the past. They reached out and wanted help sorting through a specific situation they had just experienced. They had tried to unpack it on their own, like most of us do. I know I’m guilty of trying to do things on my own too. They wanted help unpacking why they keep...

Have you ever felt like you’re constantly trying to improve, yet never quite feeling “enough”? That was my life for years—until I realized my relentless self-improvement wasn’t helping me grow. It was holding me back. During my accounting career, I wanted to excel in every area of my life—friend, coworker, leader, accountant, horsewoman, you name it. I was determined to be the best version of myself. On the surface, that sounds like a positive ambition. And it can be—until it turns toxic. How...

There’s a sinking, gnawing feeling in your gut—a tension you can’t quite name. You’ve built a successful life, but deep down, dissatisfaction is creeping in. It’s growing harder to ignore. You feel stuck and unsure how to move forward. You’re trying to convince yourself this is what it’s like to be an adult. “Doesn’t everyone feel this way?” You bury your struggles and keep pushing forward. Nothing you do seems to bring any relief. This internal tug-of-war is becoming unbearable. You feel...

Recently, I had an interesting conversation with a friend about alignment. They immediately said "positivity" was one of their guiding principles. They were certain and even backed it up with evidence. They explained, they were always asking people about the three best things that happened to them that day. At first glance, it seemed like a perfect example of taking action in alignment with their guiding principles. But as we dug deeper, something unexpected happened. My friend realized that...

Reader, The myth is you set boundaries with other people. The truth is boundaries are the parameters of your participation and contribution. They communicate what you care about, what you will or won’t do, and guide where/how you will participate and contribute. Boundaries are YOUR code of conduct. Self-connection is the foundation of boundaries. Developing a good relationship with yourself is key to setting boundaries that create connection and build trust, with yourself and others. Reader,...